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How to Build a Crazy Woman in Thirty Steps

And the Many Ways She Fights to Keep Herself Alive

Wardah Abbas
5 min readFeb 12, 2022
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Step 1: Single father meets coy girl and decides to give marriage another chance. Coy girl agrees. They get married.

Step 3: They give birth to a daughter; chubby, cheerful and insanely beautiful. They call her Little girl.

Step 4: Little girl is loved and cared for, but she soon learns that love is conditional. She learns to put everyone before herself. She would shrink around her peers. They would put her down. Her parents would put her down. They would make excuses for her bullies and teach her all the ways to avoid being the victim. She would learn how not to step on toes, how to be the bigger person and the many other ways to stay out of trouble and be a good girl.

Step 6: Little girl has three younger siblings and realises that she is no longer a child. She would become a woman in a little body. She would strap her baby sibling on her back while tackling a load of dishes. She would be punished for their misdeeds. She would be called names. She would walk on eggshells until she can no longer walk. She would lose her short-term memories and learn to tend her own bruises. Everyone would say to her; “Be smarter, you’re becoming a woman.

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Wardah Abbas
Wardah Abbas

Written by Wardah Abbas

Founding Editor, The Muslim Women Times. I write about Gender, Culture, Equality and Islam | Visit our Website at https://www.themuslimwomentimes.com

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